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Praecepta:

Thank the person who nominated you. (Thanks Samantha!)

Answer the questions. 

Ping back to the creator: Ellyn of Allonsythornraxx 

Nominate 5+ bloggers to do the tag. 

Why did you start blogging, and why have you kept blogging?

Mostly because I don't know when to shut up about the things that interest me. Another reason was that a blog gave some of the things I wanted to do a point, especially where photos were concerned, otherwise they just sit forgotten about on my computer. It's also just nice to have a sort of personal record, time tends to blur together.

The reason why I have continued is that I still don't know when to shut up, and all the other previously stated reasons still apply. And for some reason you guys seem to care about it, which is much appreciated. I tend to not take my blog very seriously so it's nice to have the freedom to do whatever I want for the most part and people still seem to like it.

What is your favorite type of blog post to write?

I have a lot of fun with the slightly photoshoot based ones. Especially if I pair a song with it. Or when I just talk about my thoughts on a movie, show, or whatever.

What are your top three favorite blog posts?

This one is hard, I have a few favourite posts of so my answers keeping changing

Wishing on Sunflowers

Summer in a day/A Pretentious Picnic in the Woods

A Madcap End To October

What are some of your favorite things to do to relax?

Watch movies, Youtube, listen to music, read a book outside or wherever really, scroll Pinterest, sit and watch the rain, look at the stars...

What are three of your favorite things?

Food, movies, music, and petrichor (the smell that happens after it rains)

I know that's four things but I honestly couldn't figure out which one to cut. I didn't even mention books but that felt like it went without saying.

Three less obvious things include: characters covered in blood, guyliner, and sparklers

What are your proudest blogging moments?

There's a few things, sometimes it's when a post turns out, sometimes it's when I don't know how to do something like find the font size button and then a few posts later you can see I figured it out, it's also been cool to see other people care about the randomness that is my blog. There's quite a few other things too.

This one is oddly specific but the 'Madcap End To October' post that I did, I didn't have anything to make 'eyes' for the ghost, like sunglasses. But for some accidental reason, one of the photos makes it sort of look like it has eyes. I'm still oddly proud of that.

What are your hobbies outside of blogging?

Writing, photograghy, reading...There's so many hobbies I would love to do it's actually a little overwhelming. I recently discovered a kind of photography called Scanography so at some point when I figure out how the printer scanner works, I'm going to stick my face in the printer and see how it turns out. I may or may not keep you posted on how that goes. 

Describe your personality in three words.

Obsessive, Cautious, and Chaotic 

What are your top three pet peeves?

I'm not particularly a huge fan of surprises. Some surprises are totally fine but I usually prefer to know what is going on. Surprises that require me to be prepared in some way stress me out.

Used tea bags or cloths left in the bottom of the sink. They get really gross really fast.

The fact that if I don't wash my hair every day it looks super greasy and thin. It's the worst.

What's something your followers don't know about you?

For a portion of time I would sometimes help my dad shovel manure at a horse rescue place and there was this rooster there that everyone hated. There were instructions on how to deal with the rooster if it came to attack you but the instructions basically boiled down to 'do whatever you can to survive, we won't judge but the owner might'. It was an interesting instruction to be told.

To give my brief introduction to this rooster.

One time the rooster (that was known to attack pretty much anything that looked at it too long) sized me up as I pointed a large shovel at it and was fully prepared to bash this rooster into next Wednesday if it decided to claw my eyes out. The rooster ended up just walking away. Keep in mind, this rooster took it as a personal challenge to attack anything bigger than it, which to be fair, made it very good at its job. You know you look non-threatening when you have a large shovel, murderous intent in your eyes and a notorious rooster just walks away from you. Although maybe it was in a forgiving mood, I tried my best to avoid it after just in case. I may be stupid but I'm not an idiot, this rooster made a vegetarian start to eat chicken again. 

I've never met someone that claims to be vegetarian but has grown to hate a animal so much she now eats it and stills considers herself to be vegetarian. I don't think that's how that works but that's what she told me. I forget the lady's name but she'd told me at the time that it was currently the 'Year of the Rooster' but that the year was fast coming to an end and then that rooster better watch out. The lady seemed a bit eccentric herself so I feel like the show-down would have been rather epic had it ever happened.

I just picture it going something like this 

And then her trying to give an alibi/explanation for what might have happened to the rooster to the owner like this

Rooster? What Rooster? I don't know what you're talking about.

The lady said it all as a joke, but she'd clearly thought a lot about it.

I nominate McKayla (from Tales of a Triple Threat)

Violette (From Violette's-Universe)

and whoever else that would like to do it

Relationship Tropes That I think We Should Stop Doing

Disclaimer: This is an unapologetic, word-vomit, rant-list about some relationship tropes that I personally hate. Ships are all a matter of personal preference but for now, hang the preferences, I'm bitter. That being said, I don't mean any offense to anyone.

1.

Fae guys who claim they're too dangerous, or the people around them are too dangerous, not because they're literal fae but because they're essentially sexual predators surrounded by even worse sexual predators. This sexual predator has to protect you because the other predators will just do it with everybody. This predator only wants to do it with you so it's fine. Just stop. Why is this a thing? Just shoot them. Shoot them all where it hurts. They deserve it. 

Why does being fae essentially just equate to being a predator? Yes, there is usually an initial power imbalance between humans and the fae, but that is because they are these magical beings who like to twist words and have these abilities that humans want but don't have. Not because you hold power over them now because they want to sleep with you. Some fae maybe, but why in books does it seem to be all the fae do? 

And I hate the 'this is my mate' thing with a passion. Can we not.

2.

Fae guys (or regular guys) that claim that they're just using a person (typically in a dating sense) and that they don't like the person they're pretending with. They think they're these untouchable beings when really they fall for any girl that talks to them for 5 minutes. Then when the guy tries to pull a 'Hans from Frozen' it's seen as tragic because 'oh no, the guy I'm obsessed with just left me.' But it's not really a big deal because they always come back saying things like 'I've tried to forget you and I can't'. 

3.

This is a less relationship based one but I've seen it used in the build-up to relationships and I'm annoyed. Fae that don't understand sarcasm. They're dangerous beings who are usually incredibly old, who twist words, and are able to trick people all the time. It's also confusing when fae characters are being sarcastic and then later they're like 'I don't understand sarcasm. I need you to explain it to me.'

 If anything, they probably understand more about being a wordsmith than you think they are. Honestly characters needing to have things (that they clearly know) explained to them is annoying. Or girls in books being like 'Why won't you let me go in the place with all the drunk people? You're just trying to control me!' 

4.

Relationships that feel like the end goal is to sleep together and then it being written or shown as being 'True Love'

5.

Characters that sleep together once and that is the basis of they're 'undying love' for each other. I give that relationship maybe a year. 

6.

Relationships that start off cute, but when the characters do end up together it's suddenly decided that they don't have to have fun, cute, innocent moments together because they're together now and we don't have to work for it. Because sleeping together is the only way we can keep the bond. If that goes out the window, maybe we were never meant to be together. Like guys, it was never about love then.

7.

Fae guys who's defining fae personality traits is that they are ripped, pretty, they're eyes look like jewels, and they have wings, are flat characters. I really hate wings on characters, it's a personal thing but still. I'm all for having pretty guys, but being pretty shouldn't be their super power. Unless they have the charisma to pull it off, I don't want to hear about it.

8.

Love Triangles where it's between the toxic bad boy, and the bland vanilla white bread of a 'good guy' who is really really boring. Or the 'good guy' is actually equally toxic but it gets ignored because he's the 'nice guy.' 

9.

Love Triangles where it feels like the main character has to end up with one of the options. It makes the characters all just feel like bags of meat. Love triangles can work great if they're done well, but only if they're done well. Deconstructed love triangles are usually the best ones. Love triangles aren't tragic because 'look at how many good options this person has, how are they supposed to choose?' Usually love triangles happen because people are incredibly flawed and they get themselves into tough situations. We should explore the flaws more and be less distracted with how shiny the options are.

Typical love triangles just come across as this when they're not done well.

10.

'Nice Guys' who will only be your friend, do things for you, be nice to you if there is the chance that they will end up with you. If they don't they leave because apparently they were only your friends so they can get in your pants. There are actual 'nice guy' characters who genuinely care about you whether you like them romantically or not back, but most of the time 'nice guys' aren't who they think they are.

11.

Relationships where there is no chemistry. Or relationships where it's just like the Avril Lavine lyric 'He was a boy, she was a girl, can I make it any more obvious.' Just because two characters talk to each other doesn't mean it's romantic.

12.

Guys who only realize that they like a girl when another guy shows interest in her. Because apparently Mr. Darcy's comment of 'Why should I give consequence to women slighted by other men?' thing still applies. Despite the fact that at least Mr. Darcy realized his toxic traits and worked on them.

To be fair, some of these tropes are commonly used in books (or media in general) that are meant for specific age targeted demographics that I'm too old for. Although these tropes keep getting used in all sorts of places. With all that being said, keep in mind I have my own slew of ships that have problematic elements so take the things I say with a grain of salt.

Anyways, those are some of the tropes that I'm frustrated with. What are your thoughts? What are some relationship tropes that frustrate you?